You can usually tell when two people are compatible not by how romantic they look holding hands in public, but by how they interact in day-to-day life.
Comfortable silences
If two people are really compatible with each other, they don’t feel the need to talk through every silent moment. They can sit together reading, watching TV, or drinking coffee without saying much.
Neither of them feels that silence is bad or that the other is bored with them. They don’t feel as if they have to entertain each other all the time and that’s a sign of comfort and familiarity. Often, just knowing that the other person is there is enough.
Tiny details
Love can sometimes be shown through the small things. One may remember their partner hates a certain food or drink, gets anxious about presentations at work, or likes to relax alone when they’ve had a long day.
They may not be romantic by going on fancy dinners and surprises. But they know each other well enough to make life simpler. They may come home with their partner’s favourite candy bar or stay quiet about a topic that will push them over the edge. Little gestures like these can make a person feel so loved.
Changing plans
Life doesn’t always go according to plan. Even couples who seem really happy face unexpected events that they must adapt to. When a couple is well-suited, a cancelled dinner reservation or changed weekend plans doesn’t automatically lead to a fight. Most likely, they will find an alternative without accusing each other or creating unnecessary stress.
This flexibility doesn’t mean they don’t get annoyed; it means they realize that time with their significant other is more important than a specific plan.
Useful differences
Two people do not need to think alike or like all of the same things to be a compatible couple. Sometimes their differences can actually complement one another and make day-to-day life run smoother. One partner may be more organized, while the other is better at rolling with the punches.
They appreciate each other for what they bring to the table and allow room for differences. They don’t try to force their partner to like everything that they like. In time, they can learn to love each other’s differences.
Bad days stay bad
If one partner has a horrible day at work or is mad about something, the other doesn’t automatically try to fix the issue. They may listen to the other vent a little, give them some reassurance, or give space if they need it. They know that not everything is about their relationship.
One partner can be exhausted, annoyed, or quiet without it meaning they’ve stopped caring. Both can have bad days without feeling guilty about not smiling 24/7.
Arguments have endings
All couples argue, even happily-ever-after, soulmate couples. The difference is that they don’t pick fights about every little thing. If they get into a disagreement, they don’t drag it out for days. They talk about what happened. Maybe one of them apologizes. But they let it go and don’t hold it over each other’s heads.
Nobody feels the need to be right or to prove someone else wrong. Sure, they might need time to cool off before discussing it, but that’s okay too. The point is they don’t use issues to fight about other issues.
Success feels shared
When good things happen to one partner, the other isn’t threatened or made to feel left behind. Whether it’s a promotion at work, personal success or an exciting opportunity, they can celebrate with the other. They don’t feel the need to compete and one-up the other on who makes more money or has the better career.
Even when one person is going through a difficult period, they can still recognize and appreciate their partner’s achievements.
Small habits adjust
Sharing a life with someone else means discovering annoying habits. One partner might like to go to bed early while the other loves staying up late. Loving couples find small ways to compromise without feeling like they are losing themselves. Little day-to-day compromises might seem small, but they show care for each other’s happiness.
Laughter comes easy
When two people are a good match, they develop their own sense of humour that others may fail to grasp. One funny look or look of recognition, some words uttered ten years ago can send them both into peels of laughter.
They don’t need to force things; they can just sit and have a pleasant conversation, and bursts of laughter will come. Even on bad days when times are tough, they can usually laugh about something.
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