The 13 behaviors that mean a woman is definitely flirting

Spotting attraction can be hard, but once you know what signs to look for, you will know she is attracted to you.

Gazing

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She looks into your eyes and then drifts her eyes down to your lips and back up to meet your eyes again. This is sometimes called the triangle look, and it means she is fantasizing about more than just talking to you.

Women stare like that when they are physically attracted to you on a level that surpasses small talk.

Openness

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Notice whether she shifts her purse, drink, or phone aside to open up space between you two. Removing these barriers allows more accessibility and invites your energy into the space. It’s her subtle way of letting you know she wants nothing between you.

Vulnerability

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When she leans her head to the side, she is exposing her neck, which is one of the most vulnerable areas on the body. By exposing it to you, she is subliminally telling you that she is very comfortable and trusts you. This is how our brains are wired as humans when we feel attracted to and safe around someone.

Alignment

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Pay attention to whether her feet & shoulders are pointed towards you, even when there are others around. Our bodies will always be pointed towards the person we find most interesting or attractive in a group setting. If she remains squared up with you, she is giving you her complete attention.

Synchronicity

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She may begin to mirror your actions. This can be subtle things like leaning back when you lean back or taking a sip of her drink as you take a sip of yours.

Mirroring is a natural thing that occurs when two people are really clicking. It’s her subconscious way of telling you that she’s in sync with you.

Contact

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She’ll find excuses to brush her arm, shoulder, or hand against yours as you talk.

She’s just gauging your response to her brief touches to see how you feel about being that close to her. If she continues to do it, she’s definitely trying to build a physical relationship.

Grooming

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Pay attention to whether she frequently fusses with her hair, smooths down her clothes, or adjusts her jewelry while staring at you.

When we like someone, we do this little behavior referred to as preening because we want to look our best for them. She cares what you think about her appearance.

Tactility

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She may play with her glass or jewelry throughout the conversation. Playing with her hands like this can be a way of relieving tension built up from attraction.

She is feeling that infamous spark and attempting not to come off as too anxious while speaking with you.

Banter

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She may tease you or give you a hard time in a playful manner. She’s building a rapport that no one else will understand.

By teasing you, she’s creating an inside joke between the two of you. This is her testing the waters to see if your personalities click.

Intimacy

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She will avoid meaningless small talk and begin confiding in you. Sharing secrets or inner thoughts that she doesn’t tell everyone is a way of trying to instantly connect with you on an emotional level.

She doesn’t want to be just another person to you.

Persistence

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She will immediately ask another question when there is a lull in the conversation. She wants the conversation to keep going so she won’t stop thinking of things to talk about.

This is because she cares about spending time with you and wants to be near you.

Radiance

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When she sees you, her entire face breaks into a wide, authentic smile when you enter the room or meet her group.

You notice her demeanor shift because she genuinely looks happy and thrilled to see you. Her glow is her body’s biological reaction to someone she cares about.

Availability

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When you’re not with her, she makes herself available to you by liking your Instagram pictures or sending you silly/random texts.

She is finding as many excuses as possible to text you just to talk to you. This is her way of letting you know she thinks about you all day.