While some phrases may not seem like a big deal at first, with a little more investigation, you’ll realize there’s a lot more to the story.
When the small thing isn’t small
One of the most harmless-sounding phrases is ‘It wasn’t worth mentioning’ because it sounds so innocent. But ask yourself this. Who decided what was worth mentioning and what wasn’t? You didn’t get to make that call, she did, and that’s a real problem.
She decided what parts of the truth you’re ‘allowed’ to hear and what parts you’re not allowed to hear. It’s not fair. It really doesn’t matter if it was a small detail or anything because the point is, you didn’t get to decide what you were allowed to hear. You can’t trust a woman like that.
The hidden clock
A woman who says, ‘I didn’t think you’d find out,’ is not a woman you can trust. Seriously. She’s not telling you that she was confused, she’s not telling you that she was panicked and unsure of how to tell you the truth.
She’s admitting that she was hoping to keep things a secret. Her plan? Keeping things a secret. Her method? Staying silent. You know that you can’t trust anybody who behaves that way.
Timing does the heavy lifting
It doesn’t take long for the questions to start after you hear, ‘I was waiting for the right time.’ For example, who decided what the right time was? When was the right time, too? Later today, next month, next week? It’s unclear, and it’s a sign that this kind of woman shouldn’t be trusted.
It’s very likely that she was never going to tell you at all, and that she was hoping everyone would forget the thing ever happened. There’s no such thing as ‘the’ right time for the truth because every time is the right time.
A neat little edit
A woman who’s not trying to sound like a liar will say something like, ‘I told you the part that matters.’ Now, you’re supposed to feel grateful that she told you anything at all, even though she’s admitting to hiding the truth from you.
Any extra details were just background noise, apparently. That’s fair enough sometimes because, yes, you don’t always need to hear every single detail, but hiding parts of the truth is still lying, no matter what she tells you.
When the reaction gets blamed
‘I knew you’d take it the wrong way.’ It’s one of those phrases that changes the argument because it stops being about what she did wrong or lied about. The issue now? The fact that you reacted the ‘wrong’ way, which somehow justified her lying to you in the first place.
She’s trying to make you sound like a difficult person before you’ve even had time to react to what she’s said. Take it this way. What she’s really saying is that she didn’t tell you the truth because she didn’t want to deal with it, simple as that. Do you want to trust that kind of woman?
Feelings get a timestamp
One of the most telling phrases is, ‘I meant it at the time.’ In other words, ‘I wasn’t being fake then, but don’t hold me to it now,’ and that tells you all you need to know about this kind of woman. People change their minds, of course, that’s not a major problem.
The issue is when someone makes you trust their word, and then they completely go against it. You won’t be able to know when they actually mean what they say, and when things are going to change.
The soft exit door
‘Maybe’ is a handy word for women who can’t be trusted because it gives them an escape route from the conversation. They’ll say things like, ‘I said maybe’ to remind you that, actually, they never committed to doing something in the first place. That’s a trap.
They want you to think that there was a real chance, but without actually giving you that chance, so that they can snatch it back a few minutes later. You become the fool for believing what they said. Don’t let that happen to you.
Comfort takes the wheel
It’s easy to understand when a woman says, ‘I didn’t want to make it awkward’ because, really, nobody does. However, it’s in that sense of awkwardness that you can usually find the truth, and a woman who’s avoiding any discomfort might be hiding something.
She might be choosing her own sense of comfort over your clarity. Plus, running away from awkwardness now doesn’t mean there won’t be any awkwardness in the future. It actually makes things more uncomfortable when the truth does come out.
Pressure becomes a pass
People say all kinds of stuff when they’re hungry or late, that’s totally normal. We all have bad days. But what’s not normal is saying something like, ‘I only said that because I was stressed,’ as it becomes an excuse for the speaker’s actions.
She still said those words. You still heard them. Using stress to explain the moment is one thing, but using it to make the entire event disappear is something completely different. It’s certainly not a good thing.
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