Some men say they love their partners, but their everyday behaviour tells a very different story.
Treating her as a social secretary
A decent man will not expect his partner to remember birthdays and special days of all of his friends and relatives and help him organize get-togethers or buy gifts. He knows that these things require effort, even if it’s not always visible on the outside.
If his mother’s birthday is around the corner, he can remember to buy her a gift. He does not assume that it is a woman’s job to help manage his social life.
Belittling her interests
He may not like all of the things that she enjoys but will never mock her about it. Whether it’s gardening, watching reality TV, antique shopping or romance novels, he accepts what makes her happy.
He won’t cringe every time she tells him about something she’s into or tell everyone how ridiculous her hobbies are. A decent man understands that different people have different interests and doesn’t belittle them.
Deciding for her
A decent man does not assume that he’s entitled to decide things for his partner woman just because they’re in a relationship. She can take a job she likes, spend money that she earned and see friends that she wants to see. If it’s a decision that will affect the two of them, he will ask her opinion about it and not simply tell her what he’s doing.
Seeing rest as laziness
If a woman decides to rest after a long day, she shouldn’t have to justify herself. A decent man will not comment on her sitting down and doing nothing when there are chores to be done. He understands that chores and responsibilities should be shared and that everyone needs their downtime. He will not automatically assume that he is allowed to rest but she isn’t.
Correcting mistakes
A good man will not correct his partner every time she gets a fact wrong or doesn’t know how to pronounce something. If the mistake doesn’t matter, he can simply let her finish her story. Pointing out every little mistake someone makes will make conversations awkward. After all, there is a difference between telling them something they may not know and thinking you’re always right.
Making her ask twice
When she asks him to do something, whether it’s fix something around the house or pick up groceries, he won’t keep telling her he will do it and then never follow through.
A mature man understands that it’s annoying when you have to remind another human being to do things. He will either do it or tell you why he can’t. He won’t make his partner feel like she has to supervise him in everything.
Turning illnesses into issues
When a woman gets sick, a decent man won’t complain like it’s an inconvenience for him. He will not expect her to make food, clean the house, do laundry or take care of kids when she can’t even get out of bed.
He will help with what needs to be done and let her rest. He also won’t try to make her feel guilty for plans that may have been cancelled.
Embarrassing her about money
A decent man doesn’t announce how much his partner earns, criticize her purchases in front of others, or make jokes about him having to pay for everything. Two people may have different incomes and spending habits. But a good man understands that these are things they discuss privately.
He won’t think his word means more because he makes more money and he never puts his woman down when it comes to money.
Expecting her to read his mind
If something is bothering him, he won’t try to hide it and expect her to pick up on his facial expressions. He knows she isn’t a mind reader, whether it’s giving him space or telling her why he’s upset.
A good man will open up about what he’s thinking. He won’t make his partner play a guessing game with what they want and be angry when she chooses wrong.
Taking credit for her efforts
If his friends say something nice about their house, kids or even something they did as a family, he won’t take all the credit. If she made a meal or planned something for the family, he will mention that it was her who did it.
He won’t try to make it look like he came up with her ideas when speaking to others. He wants her contributions to be visible to others because he knows how much she does.
Controlling her appearance
A decent man will never try to dictate to his woman what clothes and accessories she should or shouldn’t wear. Of course, he might prefer certain things, but that doesn’t mean he expects her to look a certain way for him. If she gains weight or grows older, he won’t guilt her for that either.
Just because he may not like what she chooses to wear does not mean it’s okay to try and control her. Love means allowing her to be who she wants to be.
Withholding affection
A decent man doesn’t deliberately ignore his woman to make her chase after him. He won’t go silent for days or refuse to answer her messages.
He won’t suddenly become distant just to punish her after a disagreement. Even when he’s busy or needs some time alone, he makes an effort to communicate. He doesn’t make his partner feel that she must constantly work to earn his attention and affection.
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Women don’t want perfect men, just men who stop doing these 15 things
A man doesn’t need movie-star looks or a huge bank account to make a woman happy, but certain everyday habits can push her away.
Women don’t want perfect men, just men who stop doing these 15 things