First impressions happen quickly, but they’re not always based on the things people spend the most time worrying about.
What They Notice: Smile
A genuine smile is evolution’s and society’s green light. Men notice warmth, openness, and receptivity instantly in a woman, which translates to being approachable, safe, and enjoyable to be around. Her smile creates an instant positive feedback loop in his brain that says she’s present and receptive
Hair
Men may not notice when women get a fresh haircut, trimmed up, or get subtle highlights done, but they will notice when her hair is healthy, full, shiny, and thick. Thick shiny hair that smells clean and looks good is a powerful subconscious cue that she’s healthy, young, and full of life.
Posture
Women communicate plenty about themselves before they say a single word through their posture. If she strides around confidently with her shoulders back and her frame open, she’s self-assured, comfortable in her skin, and high-value. If she slumps her shoulders, crosses her arms, or otherwise appears closed off, you know she’s nervous, defensive, or wants to keep her distance.
Eyes
Locking eyes with someone sends a huge subconscious spark and can create an instant connection between two people in the middle of a crowded room.
Males are able to pick up on whether a female will hold their gaze for an extra beat, break eye contact quickly with a smirk, or give her soft, direct eye contact while maintaining lively facial expressions during a deep conversation.
Energy
The type of energy a woman gives off, whether she’s fun and playful with a sparkly energy, cool, calm, and collected, or intense and hyper-focused, is instantly noticeable to anyone around her.
Her energy or social presence completely determines how a man is going to approach her.
Voice
Pitch, natural rhythm, and a genuine laugh are super noticeable physical attributes of a person. Having a friendly, relaxed, and genuine laugh is attractive because it eases tension, shows she doesn’t take things seriously all the time, and allows others to feel safe and comfortable around her.
The sound of confidence, playfulness, or warmth in her voice can also remain in a man’s mind long after the conversation is over.
Scent
Smell goes straight to the limbic system of the brain, which is responsible for emotion, instinct, and memory. This means that a woman’s signature scent, clean soap smell or natural warmth is perceived immediately upon close contact.
The limbic system bypasses the logical thought process, so this instant link forges an emotional connection that a man can remember and feel powerfully when thinking of that woman days or weeks later.
What They Miss: Nails
Women can go to the salon for hours and spend hundreds of dollars on nail designs, specialty chrome or custom acrylic shapes. However, all men see is whether her nails are trimmed and clean or chipped and jagged with dirt underneath.
All those tiny flowers, hand-painted designs and co-ordinated color palettes that a woman appreciates when looking at another woman’s nails will go unnoticed by him.
Labels
A man will notice when something fits a woman well and complements her figure or is appropriate for an occasion, but when it comes to designer labels, most are clueless.
They won’t be able to distinguish between a luxury designer handbag and an expensive fake, and they won’t see or care about the brand name embroidered on a purse, shoes or jacket.
Makeup
A bold lip or a crazy amount of eye makeup will draw attention. But no man notices the mastery of technique that makes for a perfect face.
They never knew women spent hours line blending contour, tweezing symmetrical brows or obsessing over deluxe setting powders. Men have a macro-level of perception when it comes to makeup. They see a woman’s finished look as lots of makeup or nothing at all.
Trims
If a woman chops off half of her hair or changes her hair color from blonde to brown, a guy will notice. But if she gets two inches of split ends trimmed off, some face-framing layers or a slight adjustment to her toner color, he honestly can’t tell. Any woman expecting an enthusiastic reaction for getting a simple trim is asking for disappointedly confused praise.
Shoes
Unless she’s wearing impossibly tall flirtatious heels or towering mud-covered combat boots, women’s shoes are usually not individually noted by brand, style, or heel height. Shoes are simply another functional coordinated part of the outfit to men.
Accessories
Minimal layered necklaces, small cartilage piercings, stackable rings, and thin bracelets aren’t going to register with most men as individual details. They might sense that she’s classy or well put together, but her jewelry choices will disappear into oblivion.
Blemishes
Women will often obsess over a small spot, fine smile lines, or mild rosacea, avoiding events or becoming self-conscious around others. Men, however, look at faces in their totality and don’t zoom in on micro-appearance details. They honestly can’t see it or perceive it because it’s normal.
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