Not all women ask questions about where the relationship is going out loud. Instead, they simply notice things. They’ll give a look here & deliberately pause there, just as a test to see how their partner feels about the relationship. Each check helps them assess how steady their partner is.
We sent out a poll to ask women about some of the ways that they test their partners’ commitment silently. Here are ten things that they told us about. Do you do or recognize any of these?
She adds warmth in texts
It’s hard to judge someone’s tone through text. That’s exactly what some women told us they rely on. They might share a heart or a smile emoji, just to see how you interpreted her mood.
Do you mirror her feelings & show that you’re tuned into the conversation? Or do you ignore it & answer her in the opposite way? The emojis aren’t as important as whether or not you pick up how she’s feeling through the screen.
She posts a low-key couple photo
One reader said she’ll post a selfie at a café or a story that shows their partner’s hand holding up a coffee. Either way, it’s a subtle picture. But she’s curious about what you’ll do next.
She cares about whether you decide to like the photo or repost it. Maybe you’ll pretend it doesn’t exist at all. Her online life blends with her real life, and how you react to the photo tells her about your feelings.
In fact, she’ll know that you’re proud to be seen with her. She’ll also know if you prefer to keep things separate.
She reaches for your hand in public
You might notice her slipping her fingers into yours when you’re walking. That’s not simply her being cute. A few readers said they’re actually waiting to see how their partner responds, whether they hold on naturally or pull away because people might see.
Physical closeness tells you a lot about a relationship. It’s easiest to see your feelings in a public space.
She matches walking pace and proximity
That’s not all for walking. Several readers said they slow down to walk beside their significant other or perhaps move close to them without touching. It’s a silent test.
Walking together shows that you’re together, while one person rushing ahead & leaving the other to catch up says something different. She knows this. She’ll check to see whether you’re matching steps, even though you may not recognize it.
She lets physical distance build slightly
The opposite is also true. One night, she might sit a little further on the couch, and the next, she’ll scroll on her phone from the other side of the bed. Our readers say they do it without making an announcement.
What you do next is what she really cares about because she wants to know whether you’ll shift closer without thinking or ignore it entirely. How you handle physical distance lets her know a lot about your feelings on the relationship.
She starts a chore and watches for join-in
Some women will grab the dish sponge or start folding laundry without saying anything about it. They may not give a hint at all. That’s on purpose. A few women said they wait to see if their partner will help them out.
Someone who’s willing to help with the little things in life is someone who’s likely to help the relationship turn into a partnership. It’s your actions during these dull moments that say a lot. Much more, in fact, than the big moments.
She redirects attention near attractive people
When you’re out in public, she may lean in or touch your arm. It’s usually right when another attractive woman walks by. But don’t mistake her behaviour as her trying to pick a fight because, according to our readers, she’s actually just watching your reaction. It’s instinctive.
Keeping your focus on her means that she doesn’t need to say anything at all. Humans can read body cues much faster than words.
She leaves a personal item at your place
Sometimes, she might leave something small somewhere at your place. It could be a hair tie or a book, perhaps a hoodie. Whatever it is, she’ll probably never mention the item ever again because she doesn’t really care about it.
No, it’s the space that matters. A few women said they did this to see whether you shove the item aside or allow it to stay there. Your reaction tells her a lot about how real the relationship feels for you.
She puts her phone away to see yours
You may see her flip her phone over & leave it there. She won’t glance at it at all. Rather than making a point, she’s trying to see whether you’ll pay attention and do the same.
One reader said her partner copying her actions made her relax because it told her that he’s just as interested in staying in the moment as she is. But staying glued to your screen? Ouch. Such silence is rather telling about your view of commitment.
She changes her routine without warning
Several readers said that, one day, they start leaving earlier & working later. They may also stop sending the usual texts during their lunch break. There’s no reason for this, at least, not a clear reason.
The truth is, she’s testing to see how you handle a change in the relationship. Rolling with it & staying steady shows her something solid, but spiraling or pulling back tells her where the cracks could be.