A codependent relationship is where only one person does everything for the other. It is difficult to understand a codependent relationship because while you might believe that it’s all love & affection, there are unhealthy dynamics that may be negatively affecting you. Signs can be recognized as a first step towards learning the dynamics & trying to balance things out better. Here are 10 ways to know you’re codependent in your relationship.
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You Put Their Interests Above Yours
You continually prioritize their emotions, needs & wants over your own to the point of self-destruction. It is not simply about being kind. You just feel like you are compelled to do everything so they can have a smile on their face. In the long run, that imbalance can leave you feeling empty & forgotten.
You Feel Responsible for Their Emotions
You might feel guilty or anxious when they’re mad or upset, even if it’s not your fault. This sense of responsibility can make it hard to separate helping from feeling too involved.
Your Self-Worth Depends on Their Approval
You feel good about yourself only because they like you. When they are happy with you, you feel good about yourself; if they’re annoyed or critical, your self-esteem suffers. This unavoidable need for validation can make you feel like a complete loser.
You Avoid Conflict at All Costs
Disputes are unpleasant for you & you might go to any lengths to maintain good relations even if that means censoring your thoughts or feelings. This avoidance can create an environment where you never really get what you want.
You Struggle to Set Boundaries
A “no” becomes almost unthinkable because you don’t want to offend or turn off your spouse. You might do things that you don’t want to do just to stay out of trouble or to keep them happy. And ‘no” boundaries usually reinforce toxic relationships.
Their Happiness Becomes Your Sole Focus
You’re so obsessed with their happiness that you forget about yours. From coordinating your day around their moods to constantly attempting to make them feel comfy, your life is centered on making sure they are emotionally secure.
You Have Trouble Identifying Your Own Feelings
And sometimes you might not be able to feel anything, because you’re too invested in what they’re feeling. In time, you’ll no longer be able to connect with your own needs & therefore struggle to stand up for yourself or know what makes you tick.
You Fear Rejection
Fear of being rejected will keep you locked in the relationship even if it’s not good. You may become too receptive or willing to live with behavior that violates you – because you fear conflict will cause you to lose your partner.
You Ignore Red Flags or Excuse Their Behavior
You may ignore abusive patterns or rationalize behaviors that upset you in order to maintain harmony. And this could be by telling yourself that it’s not so bad or that it’s gonna improve one day.
You Feel Trapped but Fear Being Alone
You feel enslaved by the relationship because it saps you emotionally, but then the idea of walking away is more frightening. This terror of loneliness keeps you in an unhealthy relationship, even when you know it isn’t working at all.
Disclaimer: This list is solely the author’s opinion based on research and publicly available information.
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